How to Be Successful in the Classroom
Sep 21, 2016 Study Skills 850 Views
All students like to be successful in classrooms including students who believe that they should be naughty in the classroom to require attention and respect. Success in classrooms are different for different students, success in classroom are categorized to:
• Student-to-colleagues social success
• Student-to-teachers social success
• Student academic and intelligence success in class
There are students who are successful building relationships with their colleagues in class without focusing on building good relationships with teacher or to get good grades in different classes.
There are also students who build good relationships with teachers, but not with their colleagues at class nor they get good grades in different classes.
The third type of students are those who focus solely on their academic success and to look more intelligent than others in class and they neglect the relationship part of the success in class.
In this post, I will not talk about balancing between the three types of success to be successful, but rather I will talk about how to be successful with yourself so that success in class can come automatically.
Most students who focus on balancing their success between their relationships with their colleagues, their relationships with their teachers and to get good academic grades in class focus on other's impressions about them and react accordingly. This type of reacting will rather make you distracted more than being focused on success in class.
Focusing on your actions only can make you successful in the three categories of success in class and this can come only if you replaced what you think is right with what is right. Here is a story to illustrate this point:
Windy and Comfy are two girls in the same class. Windy tries hard to be successful like Comfy and Comfy, on the other hand, knows what she is doing and thus she is successful with her colleagues, teachers and academically.
Each one of them has some beliefs different than the other, Comfy's beliefs are as following:
- I should always compare myself with my previous self
- My actions on different situations are what I represent to the world around me
- Whatever I think or feel I should always be kind to others
- I should set limits for people who skip their limits with me
- I should always be honest and flexible to change myself when necessary
- I worry one day at a time and don't worry about the future
- My experience is what I can share with others, not my opinions
On the other hand, Windy distracts herself, and her life follows, by her beliefs which are:
- Impressing others is what I should do because everybody do the same
- I have solutions for every problem others fall in
- I am better than many other students
- I should always keep busy
- People are bad by nature and life is unfair
- Every problem has a solution that I can help in it with my opinion
Each one of them build their actions and reactions in the classroom over their beliefs, these beliefs turn into thoughts and their thoughts turn into actions in every situation they experience.
One day in Windy's and Comfy's class, the history teacher asked a question to the class. This question is an introductory question for students to be prepared for the lesson. After asking the question the teacher mentioned that whom will answer this question correctly, he or she will have 10 marks in their attendance.
Windy's thoughts were as following:
- I must answer this question before anybody else
- I should show others that I am intelligent and diligent
- Everybody will be jealous when I have the 10 marks, that's why I should impress them
- I will do my best to answer this question
- I know I can answer this question
On the other hand, Comfy's thoughts were as following:
- I am not sure if I know the right answer so let me listen to others first
- I can raise my hand if no one says what's in my mind
- Either if I get the 10 marks or not I am OK
- If someone takes the 10 marks I will be happy to congratulate him or her
- After each challenging question like this I know what should I study harder in the subject
Windy is the first one to raise her hard so that she can answer the question but the teacher asks the question once again so that more students raise their hands. After two other students answered wrong on the question, the teacher chose Windy to answer the question but she also answered wrong.
Comfy was listening to each answer from other students, but unfortunately a student answered what was going in her mind and her answer was wrong, so she knows now that she should search about this topic to know more about it and she happily did when she returned back home.
Windy, on the other hand, felt confused because she didn't know the answer and she also felt that everyone in the class thinks now that she is not smart enough so she decided to study harder to impress others the next time but when she returned back home she was busy doing other things and she forgot about what she decided when she was at class.
There is a big difference between Comfy's and Windy's mind focusing. Because Windy is focused mainly on what others think about her, she is distracted in her life, on the other hand, because Comfy's main focus is on herself and how to enhance it, she is more successful in classroom in all categories of class success.